Aspiring for perfection… I am guilty! Focusing upon what others think of me… Guilty again! Do these attributes apply to your personality and mindset, too? Great! I am not alone in this?
We work to look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect. At almost any cost we drive to avoid criticism, blame, shame, or ridicule. As workaholics we try to convince ourselves that it’s all about a work addiction when it’s really all about being addicted to the validation that stems from success. According to sociologist Brené Brown, “if perfectionism is driving you, then shame is riding shotgun.”
Dr. Brené Brown on Faking It, Perfectionism and Living Wholeheartedly
Perhaps, we might adjust our position and call it what it is: a slinking series of self-recrimination (a blaming of oneself).
Under those conditions or circumstances when you do not feel most qualified for a position, profession, or task, you whisper to self, perhaps I am being nothing more than a fraud. This then leads to feelings of shame for being a self-defined imposter.
Under these conditions and circumstances, perhaps it’s high-time that we perfectionists exercise a bit of emotional agility and veer away from this self-protective perfectionist cycle. The first step to making this happen is achieved when we realize that there is truly no such thing as “perfection” in the first place. Like money, the more we strive for it, the more we come to realize there will never be enough!
Be smart and be encouraged,
Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly. New York, NY: Gotham.